10 grave mistakes men make on the first date
I was wondering why men make more mistakes on a date than women do and just then the natural answer comes to me and that is women generally share their true experiences in tackling a date esp. if its the first one. Men on the other hand in their peer groups don't do it honestly and so this article concentrates on the mistakes that men make on a date :
1. Confusion : Confusion is the first problem of a man on a date. If you don't know what you are looking for in you date, forget about a nice evening you might be heading for a headache. May be you are confused whether you have gone too early on a date with this one or may be it is just sheer excitement of a date that is driving you nuts and you tell yourself, " its not a mission, its just a date." It might go well but what is the issue in keeping clear what you are going for. It serves two great purposes. One, you don't commit as to what your future is going to be and two, you don't get sentimental and play your cards with complete equanimity.
2. Expectations : If you had spent the night before dreaming with eyes open, anticipating what will happen and building castles in air, you have already lost the battle. Your girl will make you feel the seeker and her the granter if she sniffs even a speck of expectation in your eyes and you are immediately downgraded. So, as a principle block any anticipations and if its a first time, I think you should keep yourself slightly busy. Free mind plays devil.
3. Adulation : You see, never ever admire her for her looks, not until you are dating Ash or JLo. Adulation sends her a simple message..."you can be the boss". And what could be worse... she thinks you are just another man who is playing the old cliche of admiring her looks. If she is really a charm a casual complement like, "you look beautiful" will do but with an expression that reads, "I had to; I know my etiquette that 's all, don't read more". This is more important if its the first date with her. Later, you may admire her for her brains if you found she had any!
4. Staring : This is an uncontrollable habit of many who just can't keep looking at the horizon and prefer a thirty degree deviation downwards esp. when the date has a deep neck and yet worse, clean edges. We know that is difficult and believe me she expects the same out of you. But, again avoiding it will let her know you are different. That fetches you the maximum points even if she is one of those bitchy ones.
5. Chivalry : This is one thing that will need you to think relatively. While few girls may get flattered some others find it gaudy. If you are not used to it just refrain from doing it. Its better not to do than overdo it or worse still, do it in an abhorrent manner. Your choice in the end matters the most. The zist is "play safe".
6. Nothing to say : If you were inspired by those romantic movies where the couple has nothing to say, they stare at their plates, give a remark or two, smile at imaginary creatures, please grow up! Its a date and be real you never know if she likes romantic or action or horror even.
7. My football team : When I say speak or keep a healthy conversation on, I don't mean you describe your football match, your Reebok shoes, your squash racket or worse still your office. If you ever do it, pray to God she doesn't pour the soup on your crisp trousers and walk out on you. Don't worry I was exaggerating.
8. Don't touch me : If its not a date with the one that you have been going with for some time refrain from making any body contacts. If you think you can handle it good enough. But, if you can't avoid afauxpas. You might here other friends bragging over their bold advances. Don't try to prove anything. Ideally let her make the first step or at least a sign.
9. Who pays? : Ideally, the one who asked the other out must bear the expenses and so, it happens many a times, but, personally I think the ideal is hypothetical. At least attempt to pay and if she insists good for you. Poor we, have to drill our pockets even if they are desperate.
10. A coffee at my place? : You are kidding if you don't know what it means when you say that to a girl after a date. Never say that to your date or even agree to it if the proposal comes across until you have plans to make it a night. If you were just looking for that I think you can ignore this advice.
Happy dating!
1. Confusion : Confusion is the first problem of a man on a date. If you don't know what you are looking for in you date, forget about a nice evening you might be heading for a headache. May be you are confused whether you have gone too early on a date with this one or may be it is just sheer excitement of a date that is driving you nuts and you tell yourself, " its not a mission, its just a date." It might go well but what is the issue in keeping clear what you are going for. It serves two great purposes. One, you don't commit as to what your future is going to be and two, you don't get sentimental and play your cards with complete equanimity.
2. Expectations : If you had spent the night before dreaming with eyes open, anticipating what will happen and building castles in air, you have already lost the battle. Your girl will make you feel the seeker and her the granter if she sniffs even a speck of expectation in your eyes and you are immediately downgraded. So, as a principle block any anticipations and if its a first time, I think you should keep yourself slightly busy. Free mind plays devil.
3. Adulation : You see, never ever admire her for her looks, not until you are dating Ash or JLo. Adulation sends her a simple message..."you can be the boss". And what could be worse... she thinks you are just another man who is playing the old cliche of admiring her looks. If she is really a charm a casual complement like, "you look beautiful" will do but with an expression that reads, "I had to; I know my etiquette that 's all, don't read more". This is more important if its the first date with her. Later, you may admire her for her brains if you found she had any!
5. Chivalry : This is one thing that will need you to think relatively. While few girls may get flattered some others find it gaudy. If you are not used to it just refrain from doing it. Its better not to do than overdo it or worse still, do it in an abhorrent manner. Your choice in the end matters the most. The zist is "play safe".
6. Nothing to say : If you were inspired by those romantic movies where the couple has nothing to say, they stare at their plates, give a remark or two, smile at imaginary creatures, please grow up! Its a date and be real you never know if she likes romantic or action or horror even.
7. My football team : When I say speak or keep a healthy conversation on, I don't mean you describe your football match, your Reebok shoes, your squash racket or worse still your office. If you ever do it, pray to God she doesn't pour the soup on your crisp trousers and walk out on you. Don't worry I was exaggerating.
8. Don't touch me : If its not a date with the one that you have been going with for some time refrain from making any body contacts. If you think you can handle it good enough. But, if you can't avoid afauxpas. You might here other friends bragging over their bold advances. Don't try to prove anything. Ideally let her make the first step or at least a sign.
9. Who pays? : Ideally, the one who asked the other out must bear the expenses and so, it happens many a times, but, personally I think the ideal is hypothetical. At least attempt to pay and if she insists good for you. Poor we, have to drill our pockets even if they are desperate.
10. A coffee at my place? : You are kidding if you don't know what it means when you say that to a girl after a date. Never say that to your date or even agree to it if the proposal comes across until you have plans to make it a night. If you were just looking for that I think you can ignore this advice.
Happy dating!
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