Confidence: Don't Be A Desperate Man


  By Marigold R Flores

Confidence: Don't Be A Desperate Man

Confidence is one of the best assets that helps men lure women towards them. It can be acquired easily, yet can also be easily lost. At the same time, confidence is the hardest character to fake. It is the very same character trait that is a necessity among men.

Nevertheless, confidence is among the misunderstood characteristics of human. Part of its mystery is that most men do not actually understand what its nature is. Some have this notion that in order for them to show confidence, they must express it in actions alone, while others believed that it is attained through words. And still, there are some who think that confidence is something you must be born with.

More often than not, confidence can be showed in how you carry yourself, as well as how you introduce yourself. How you project, the way you make eye contact, the way you speak and walk, are the easiest manipulations to impart a woman that you are highly interested in her and in getting to know her a little bit more. Appearing overly interested, on the other hand, emit signs of eagerness, which then provides the impression that you are inexperience when it comes to dealing with members of the opposite sex.

Sometimes, contemplating yourself acquainting with a likely date works really well if you project so much confidence and by changing your posture, your footing and your stance. The next time you approach a good-looking woman thinking that she is too way out of your range but still willing to give it a try, your outlook will emanate in your conversation. By knowing what it is that you really want and by building confidence beforehand, you will sure save yourself from embarrassing situations and help you not to look desperate.

Befor
e you walk over to the woman who catches your fancy, take a moment to muster your confidence. Close your eyes for a second and take a deep breath. As you exhale, reminisce your accomplishments. Importantly, you remember the toughest thing you had overcome that had a positive effect in your life. Absorb the emotion behind your triumphs, as this will aid you in gathering your courage and confidence. After which, you open your eyes and make your way towards your dream date with similar sense of accomplishment and emotion to propel you in introducing yourself with apparent confidence.

As soon as you are deep in conversation with the woman of your choice, stop appearing desperate by minding every information you divulge about yourself. Telling so much facts, achievements and statistics about yourself may appear as if you are soliciting affection. Engulfing a woman with your star qualities especially during your initial interaction will appear like you are trying so hard to please her, and may potentially backfire. On the contrary, if you are confident enough, your exceptional qualities will have to speak for themselves and there is no need for you to exert so much effort for self-promotion. Also, this will allow her to express herself and let her share her qualities and interests, which ultimately will reward you with bonus points for playing a good listener.

An interested woman will inevitably guide you to what she wants to know in order to be impressed. Generally, a woman is more impressed with a man who show more interest in her welfare rather than talk so much about himself. Your possessions, including what car you drive, where you live or how much do you have in your bank account will be pulled away from you after some time. But your integrity and confidence will speak up for who you are. Therefore, be confident all the time and don't be a desperate man.
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#1 Posted by mcdonaldux (guest) - Oct 13, 2008, 1:03 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

brilliant! go for gold marigold!

Zentraveler

#2 Posted by Zentraveler - Oct 26, 2008, 8:06 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Excellent coverage of a sensitive subject. Might add ...just be yourself!

abduldalry

#3 Posted by abduldalry - Nov 3, 2008, 12:49 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Hi Marigold. Good work. Uhm do you have in mind on how to boost our confidence? I would really appreciate it if you can come up another article with that topic.

agacarl

#4 Posted by agacarl - Nov 3, 2008, 1:09 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

I just feel the best confidence builder is to have experienced failures and success so that you get feedback as to what is desirable by women and what it takes to court or make them interested in you. As they say experience is the best teacher to build great confidence.

I know that there are also some men who bluffed their way into making women go after them.

joyce046

#5 Posted by joyce046 - Nov 14, 2008, 11:01 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Excellent article. I loved it.

Carina

#6 Posted by Carina - Nov 25, 2008, 10:40 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Very good

#7 Posted by an unknown user - Jan 9, 2009, 7:43 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Many guys should read this.

padmaraghu

#8 Posted by padmaraghu - Jan 14, 2009, 8:34 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Very good article. Men to attract their opposite sex should behave in a natural way and forget for a moment that they are talking to the opposite sex.

Lilaclight

#9 Posted by Lilaclight - Jan 18, 2009, 10:55 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Nice article. Now we just have to get lots of guys to read it.

harsha

#10 Posted by harsha - Feb 26, 2009, 10:35 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Very well formed article...

x0hopiiex0

#11 Posted by x0hopiiex0 - Feb 27, 2009, 9:53 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Thats very good!

BlueSafari

#12 Posted by BlueSafari - Mar 12, 2009, 11:31 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Make sure not to get confidence confused with arrogance.

pistolpete

#13 Posted by pistolpete - Mar 20, 2009, 8:53 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

good content, but the quality of writing and syntax needs work.

Fapturbo

#14 Posted by Fapturbo - Mar 22, 2009, 6:12 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Not bad, overall its a good Article

PaigeT

#15 Posted by PaigeT - Mar 24, 2009, 11:20 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingemptyratingempty Unrated

Good article

#16 Posted by ALAM WIJAYA (guest) - Apr 6, 2009, 12:03 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

This is quite good article indeed. Since it has a good degree of coverage from the title picked. But the complexity of the language could prohibit people with less mature english proficiency to dig up more information therein.

HabibS

#17 Posted by HabibS - Apr 6, 2009, 12:55 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

nice one!!! keep up the good work.

#18 Posted by Amram (guest) - May 9, 2009, 9:06 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Ecellent! good information

Skhan

#19 Posted by Skhan - May 10, 2009, 2:36 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Good one!!

siddharthb

#20 Posted by siddharthb - Jun 14, 2009, 2:03 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

i am very excited with this article.

#21 Posted by goodselfme (guest) - Jun 16, 2009, 8:37 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Great points for developing self confidence by mentioning the core behind that trait.

SudhirIndia

#22 Posted by SudhirIndia - Jun 19, 2009, 1:50 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingemptyratingempty Unrated

Very candid! You fake your stance and you fall flat, bull's eye...

knuckleduster

#23 Posted by knuckleduster - Jul 5, 2009, 1:59 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Thank you !

Winterfate

#24 Posted by Winterfate - Jul 9, 2009, 4:36 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Brilliant article. Fits me pretty well. :P

egoistdeviant

#25 Posted by egoistdeviant - Jul 13, 2009, 10:56 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

very well written, good job!

egoistdeviant

#26 Posted by egoistdeviant - Jul 13, 2009, 11:06 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

As a man who comes off as desperate, i thoughouly enjoyed this article, very good

BrittanyFranceschini

#27 Posted by BrittanyFranceschini - Jul 14, 2009, 8:28 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingemptyratingempty Unrated

I liked this article but would also suggest just being yourself !

yasen1986

#28 Posted by yasen1986 - Jul 29, 2009, 6:18 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingemptyratingemptyratingempty Unrated

informative

#29 Posted by tolex4u (guest) - Aug 12, 2009, 8:37 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Surely, this article will be very helpful to many readers. Beautiful article.

kiriachi

#30 Posted by kiriachi - Sep 20, 2009, 3:38 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

works evertime

MartieLownsberry

#31 Posted by MartieLownsberry - Sep 23, 2009, 7:57 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Good article. I always felt that a man who had to tell a woman all his good points probably didn't have any!

DanielB

#32 Posted by DanielB - Oct 17, 2009, 10:50 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

Very thoroughly explained. Well done. This should help many men that are too nervous to find a great woman.

goodarticles

#33 Posted by goodarticles - Nov 9, 2009, 3:12 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

Brilliant job !!!

#34 Posted by Sincerity (guest) - Dec 15, 2009, 3:37 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingemptyratingempty Unrated

Lot of mixed feelings on this one lol I definitely prefer a more confidant man. At the same time, and I'm not the only woman who feels this way, but if it's all an act then sooner or later you're going to face problems. Unfortunately for you guys "being yourself" isn't enough for most women unless "yourself" is actually want they want, so I suppose if that's the woman you prefer then you will need to be an actor. Sad but true. I would've gone a different way with the article though. Teach the ones who don't have confidence naturally, how to actually build their confidence so that they don't need to pretend ;)

LukeeCharms

#35 Posted by LukeeCharms - Dec 18, 2009, 7:33 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

women love confident men!

youshouldknow

#36 Posted by youshouldknow - Feb 14, 2010, 2:05 pm Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingemptyratingempty Unrated

Great article. Loved it

jgrantha

#37 Posted by jgrantha - Feb 16, 2010, 7:48 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfull Unrated

You are right. Every desperate man shall read it.

cyberghost

#38 Posted by cyberghost - Feb 17, 2010, 2:46 am Rating: ratingfullratingfullratingfullratingfullratingempty Unrated

its fine....good work. ...an ideal article !!!


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