Relationship is a broad word, although generally, it conveys a specific connection or a special bond between entities, concepts or objects.  The most common forms of relationships are causal relationships within events, social relationships among people, and theoretical or mathematical relationships between different components of modeled systems.  There are also the intimate relationship and interpersonal relationship, which both involve connections, affiliations or social associations between people.  These types of relationship include the so-called romantic love, while the other types of relationship are cohabitation, friendship, family, marriage, polyamory, gay relationship, community and sexual relationship.

However, when it comes to relationship, more often than not, it is directly associated to romantic relationships.  Well, this one is highly fascinating to talk about anyway.  No wonder people are so into it, taking part.  Relationships vary greatly from couple to couple, each is affected or dealing with different issues and concerns.  You may wonder why your friends have lasting relationships while you don’t, or why yours last while theirs did not.  The same goes for those around you.  There are love relationships, as well as marriages, that last for years and several decades while there are also those that lasted for months or couple of years only.  And then you begin to ask, is relationship a matter of fate or chance or choice? 

To start with, why not ponder whether you have a healthy relationship.  How will you know what you have right now is healthy and is doing you well?  Sometimes, for most people, finding a mate that they think is perfect for them is next to impossible.  Perhaps you are one of these people.  But again, how do you know you are perfect for him or her? 

It is absolutely normal to see the world through colored glasses at the first part of a relationship.  In fact, for the most part, these colored glasses eventually turn out to be blinders, keeping them see into the relationship for what it truly is.  For this, couples oftentimes overlooked that what they have is unhealthy, only to realize in the end when it is too late to save already.  So, what do make relationships healthy?

Naturally, you and your dearly beloved treat each ot

her amazingly.  Why don’t you take a few steps back, away from the heavenly sensation that is accountable for bringing you to cloud nine and comprehend whether what you have right now is truly healthy.  A healthy relationship bears mutual respect, trust, honesty, support, fairness and equality, separate identities, and good communication.  Think over and over whether you have these characteristics in your current relationship.  If you do, then congratulations for you are in desirable relationship.

On the contrary, you can say your relationship is unhealthy if it involves abusive behavior, mean, controlling and disrespectful attitudes.  There are indeed people who unfavorably grew up in an unhealthy environment where parents fight a lot, shouting angry words and displaying violent actions such as the father slapping the mother.  For those people who grew up in such hostile ambience, they may think it is all right.  Well, definitely it is not okay.  It is totally, completely, absolutely unhealthy.  Tendency is, these people or children may grow up with low self-esteem and poor regard on relationships. 

Respect, kindness and trust are the primary qualities of a healthy relationship.  Anyone who thinks he or she does not possess these yet may start working on developing them.  Furthermore, you may feel utterly bad about a friend or someone who had been mistreated; you still have to take real good care of yourself.  Again, abusive behavior is not at all healthy.

Can you think of an incident wherein your partner was trying to take control over you, made you bad about yourself or humiliate you, or tried to isolate you from the world, or worst, sexually or physically harm you?  If you say, “yes” to any of these, it is about time you get out from that relationship of yours, fast!  Do not be ashamed to talk or share it with a trusted friend or anyone in your family.  Let them know what is going on and think of your safety.  You will never know what he or she will do next to hurt you.  It may be tempting to misinterpret or make excuses or cover what has been done to you as your partner’s expression of affection.  Even if you know that your partner loves you, and yet hurt you, keep in mind that it is far from being healthy, not to mention completely wrong. 

No person, regardless of gender, race, or status, deserves to be shoved, hit, slapped, or forced to do something he or she does not want.  Everybody deserves to be happy, be loved, be cared and be part of a healthy relationship. 

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