Jealousy is a common issue being discussed within a relationship.  Even in friendly relationships or among family members, being jealous is not uncommon.  Why does a person feel jealous?  Is it indicative of a weak relationship?  In strong relationships, is there any room for jealousy?  Or perhaps, it is genetic? 

To better apprehend things, take some simple examples like, noticing that your son is equally attentive and affectionate to one of your neighbors.  Will you be jealous?  Or will you be proud?  Will you take him away from the neighbor?  Will you directly confront the neighbor to stay away from your son?  Well, you may not actually do any of these but try to reverse the situation.  What if your spouse replaces your son in the picture?  For sure, you will react differently.  Why is that and what’s the difference anyway between the two?

The underlying difference is faith.  You know very well, and that you have faith that even if your son dates or plays around the neighborhood or with lots of girls, he will definitely comes home to you at the end of the day.  And here comes the real cause for jealousy: you are not giving the same credit of faith to your husband.  Somewhere at the back of your mind, you worry about your looks, your skills, your intelligence and any other factors that are not supposed to be brood over for no apparent reason.  Lack of faith and lack of self-esteem and confidence can all lead to breakups and unnecessary jealousy issues.

Can a relationship survived on slippery thoughts and insecurities?  Certainly no.  Whatever is troubling you or if you have doubts, it is best to openly discuss it with your partner, spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend.  Talk it over without any hint of hesitations.  Tell him or her all your fears and possible reasons of jealousy.  Be completely open about the whole thing and be fair.  Try to know what your partner has in his or her mind.  Know his or her uncertainties, as well as doubts and anxieties.  You both discuss everything, cover all concerns and decide, that no matter where your talk will lead you, your relationship must stay as what it already is, or even better.

In relationships, it is all a matter of give and take.  Not just take and take or give and give, but equilibrium of both.  Thus, for a relationship to work, you must be ready to commit, as well as take the commitment your partner offers.  And you enjoy life.  You enjoy each other and your relationship without any jealousy lurking around.  On the other hand, if after you openly talked with each other, after discussions and all, you realized that your commitment for each other is still not strong enough; make a peaceful and clean breakup.  It may not be pleasant at all, but at least, uneventful and quiet.

You cannot expect to sail smoothly and happily in deep waters, even how much you try to enjoy the ride, if you constantly worry of the boat’s sea worthiness, right?  That is how it goes with relationships as well.  Do not waste your time on someone or in relationship if you have less trust and faith of your partner.  It is not healthy for both of you to go on and preserve something when there is too little bond, and too much gap.  Jealousy is so capable of creating such huge gap.

Therefore, you begin sailing only if you are certain about the boat you will be in.  Jealousy basically is a product of the mind when one is doubtful of the commitment and love in the relationship.  And this, you have to take care of to live a happy and contented life.