Dating.. as defined by a single mom

Dating!  My definition of the word used to be going out with an interesting man and getting to know him.  The key word was going out.

Nowadays as a single mom of one very mischievous and possessive 4 yr old boy going out alone -read without him tagging along-- is nearly impossible!!!  Going to the potty with my little man banging on the door to hurry up a minute after I go in is a daily occurrence. Several times I went out with my friends after I put my son to bed and every time  he will wake up at 11 pm and start calling me on my mobile and demand that I go home pronto!. He refuses to go back to sleep until  I come home.  So what was I going to do? It’s been 4 yrs since I have enjoyed a private conversation with an interesting guy.  I miss laughing and being flattered by a guy.  It's not enough I guess that your son adores you and thinks that you are the most beautiful woman in the world.  Part of me wants some male attention, from an adult one! 

So lately I have been hanging out in chatrooms where adults are interested in finding a chatmate that can talk about varied interests. I must admit that half of the men online in those chatrooms are “jerks” thus if you want to try it sometime my tip is never accept invitation to view their cams unless you are prepared to see something that you might not want to see. 

I have found two wonderful men who have become my regular chatmates. One is younger than me by 9 years  --am in my mid 30s so don’t worry I am no online child predator!!! Hahahaha-- and we will call him Boylet as my girlfriend calls him and the other a 48 yr old man who looks a little bit like Harrison Ford!   So now I am dating! J Seeing two men – literally speaking since I DO SEE them on webcams! – and getting to know them.  This is an unusual  way of dating I agree but it works for me. I get to have the male conversation and attention I wish to have in the convenience and security of my home.  The best part of it really is I don’t have to leave my son at night . I can chat away while he is sleeping.   Those men and I may not be actually sharing meals but we sometimes eat together only thing is he is eating on his table and I'm eating on mine.  We sometimes sleep together too!! J That is we leave our mics open and talk until we fall asleep together.. and again he in his bed and I in mine with my son beside me.

So now dating has a new meaning to me it's no longer about going out it could now also mean staying in.